” The person who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The person who walks alone is likely to find themselves in places no one has ever been before.
Creativity in living is not without its attendant difficulties, for peculiarity breeds contempt. And the unfortunate thing about being ahead of your time is that when people finally realize you were right, they’ll say it was obvious all along. You have two choices in your life; you can dissolve into the mainstream, or you can be distinct. To be distinct, you must be different. To be different, you must strive to be what no one else but you can be.” – Author Unknown.
Many of us are raised by well meaning society and family that impose upon us rules or societal “norms” that tell us we must “fit in” to be accepted. We must care what others think in order to judge how well we’re doing in our daily lives. Do it this way, not that! Don’t be “self-ish”!
Being told these things was a form of oppression. Well, times are a changin’ !
There has never been more diversity on the planet as we continue to grow and reach out with our ideas and personalities more easily than ever before. Every day now, as exampled by those inhabiting the American White House, people are pushing the boundaries of what used to be normal. When it comes to personalities, creative talent, ideas etc., we’re finding out that we’re not alone. Through sheer frustration, stress & anger, millions are taking to the streets to show solidarity. There are others out there like Me, thinking like Me, acting like Me! Some have the courage to express themselves without fear. Others take it more slowly. Possibly due to environment and safety concerns, still fearing being too “different”.
Have courage, tenacity , and faith! And above ALL, take care of Yourself first.
We must take care of ourselves first, Body, Mind & Spirit, to ensure we’re able to build confidence , courage, have a healthy quality of life . So that’s a priority! We must make choices that fill our Spirit with joy & ease of living.
Then you will be strong enough to Feel the fear and BE yourself. Find something new & challenging. Not only will you grow brain matter, & new friendships with others like you, but you’ll grow confidence too. Try studying martial arts or any other physical movement that builds confidence and is fun for you. If you’re not physically able to do that type of physical strengthening, then exercise mentally. Study meditation, self hypnosis, learn, then use daily affirmations that will help change your mental behavior in the direction of confidence. I’m sure you’ve heard how Olympic Athletes visualize their actions as well as do them. That’s because if we visualize & really imagine & feel an action mentally, our brains sometimes can’t tell the difference between physical reality, actually “doing” something, and just thinking about it. So you can have the same affect in regards to building confidence!
Do what makes You happy and then try volunteering. Volunteering is known to boost confidence and in turn your immune system! There are plenty of opportunities out there in your own community to help others. Find one that You would enjoy. This is about your healing too. DO you like working with children or Seniors? Are you ok indoors, say in a hospital, or hospice environment? Or do you prefer being outside with Parks & Recreation? What are you curious about? Google to see whats out there. In order to maintain balance and good health in Body, Mind, & Spirit , you have to be “Self-ish”. Through volunteering, You can be helping your-Self & others at the very same time! Crazy huh?!
What makes you happy? Make a list 1 – 10 of things that do, or used to (even in your childhood) make you happy. Start thinking about them. Are you noticing that you’re starting to feel a bit different just taking a trip down memory lane like I did, remembering my passion for stargazing when I was 8 yrs young? A little lighter, a bit happier in that moment? Capture and remember that feeling. Then, if possible, take action! I went stargazing last summer for the first time in years. It was amazing and lifted my spirits incredibly.
Start focusing on and doing the things on your list if you’re able. If not now, start a bucket list. No rush , no pressure, just put that list somewhere visible & look at, and think about that list everyday. Change it, or add to it when necessary . Start going down that list and going thru it one at a time and watch your outlook on your-Self & Your life start changing for the better. Watch new positive people start coming in to your life.
Its like a vision board. Make one of those if you feel it will help! The more you think about it, the more things small or large, will start moving toward that vision, and toward You. FOCUS on You is the key! Through this process, You start learning who YOU are, why you’re here, and what you really want from life.
There are many great stories of people who knew very young who they wanted to be and had great focus or great karma whom I’ve envied. Others like myself, had to constantly fight against others telling them to NOT be themselves but be like someone else and just fit in. One of my favorite stories is about Lucille Ball . Because of her enormous focus, intelligence, tenacity, talent, and her gift of healing the world with laughter, she defied them ALL and became a global force for good. Her work survives on TV decades after her passing and in many different languages because of the joy she gave to the world. Of course being a Leo helped her….alot.
Some of us are born more forceful and confident this lifetime and reach our goals & passions faster because of it. Some of us are here to learn and experience the journey from introvert or ambivert to extrovert. For example, classic Virgos make such good researchers, spies, scientists, surgeons,and lawyers. They don’t mind being hold up with a book, a test tube , or behind the scenes. But if we have some Leo planets in our chart…well, its like a split personality. Often classified as ambiverts, we love people and parties, but then we love our quiet time to focus on other things too.
So dare to be different! Dare to be YOU with balance. Take of you first, then be of service to others. Respect yourself and others always. DO no harm. Joy, ease & abundance will flow effortlessly.
If you need help in figuring out your path this lifetime, and are ready to do the homework, I can help.
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Peace , Courage & Love,